What is Sexual Health?

What is Sexual Health?

Part 3 of 3 in a Sexual Health series

We think about our physical health. 

 We think about our mental health.  

But do you ever stop and think about your sexual health?

Ladies.  Many of us think about our sexual health once a year when we go to the OB/GYN.  We may also be more aware if a problem comes along, like those dreaded yeast infections. 

 Guys are about the same.  If it works why bother giving it much thought?

In our society, it seems that any mention of sexual pleasure is wrong.  That is something that stays in the bedroom (well maybe.  Not everyone talks about it with their partner).  Many do not speak to their PCP about it.  Does your doctor ask you how your sex life is?

But it is ok to ask questions about sex, to talk about it, to want more information and be open about it. 

Some things that contribute to your sexual health:

Birth control

STI protection

Age 

Communication with your partner

Your physical and mental health

Self esteem

Stress

Past trauma

Your beliefs about sex

First...Try to be open with your partner.  I am hoping that they are the closest person to you.  Although you may be embarrassed, try talking to them about your fantasies, what you do/don’t like, and certainly, communicate the things that are off limits to you. 

Communicate with your doctor and your therapist if you have any concerns or difficulties.  They are professionals and you should be able to speak with them about any sexual questions or concerns.  If they are not open then find one that is.  

Sex can be an important part of your life and should not be ignored.  Have fun!  Enjoy yourself!  If you are ok without sex and you are single or your partner is also ok without sex then don't worry.  It is only a problem if it feels like a problem to you or your relationship.  (Again please remember to seek the help of a physician if you feel you have any health problems.)